初次约会完美指南！过不过光棍节你就差这一哆嗦~
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“如果是第一次约会（first date）需要注意什么呢？男生和女生需要有什么样的不同表现呢？”
男生
01.Plan it.
Have an answer for when and where the date will be. Don’t say stuff like “I don’t know, what do you think” or “It’s up to you” constantly.Try to pick a location that’s comfortable and conducive to conversation.
第一步：选择约会的时间地点。拿出我要为你承包整个鱼塘的霸气决定约会的细节，而不是一副弱弱的样子说：“我不知道，你觉得呢？”或者“你决定吧”！选择一个适合两人交谈的舒服场所。
While movie dates are popular, they’re not great for first dates as you’ll both be staring at a screen all night. If the idea of staring at her from across a table all night intimidates you, choose an interactive date. Even if you have nothing in common, you can at least laugh about your poor mini-golf skills together.
虽然第一次约会去看电影是不错的选择，但其实并不适合。你想啊，整晚你们俩都看着大屏幕，没有心灵交流啊！！！如果你觉得面对面坐一整晚会让你非常紧张的话，尝试更多的互动。即使你们没啥共同话题，你们可以一起嘲笑你的高尔夫球打得很菜。
02.Dress to impress.
You may think, "First date! I need to look amazing!" You don’t need to wear a suit and tie to the local pub, but it wouldn’t hurt to brush your teeth and put on a shirt that doesn’t look slept in.
第二步：在约会前认真的打扮下。你可能想第一次约会就给女生留下特别好的印象。当然不需要过度装扮比如说西装革履去酒吧，但是约会前认真的刷牙，穿一件不是一看起来就是睡皱了的衬衫还是很重要的。毕竟三分颜值七分裱，可以不那么帅气但至少要给女生留下干净清爽的印象。
03.Be on time.
And be gracious if she’s fashionably late. She probably just doesn’t want to show up before you get there.
第三步：准时！如果女生迟到了要理解，大多数女生还是有点小矜持哒，在你出现之前她们不会出现的。而且因为要洗澡吹头发化妆，出门时间真的很难把握啊。
在女生姗姗来迟之前，你可以利用这个时间做什么呢？背单词啊！掏出手机打开扇贝，背50个单词或者读2篇新闻，都是极好的。
04.Compliments
Use compliments appropriately.
She likely puts some efforts into her look for you, so offer her a compliment or two. Avoid a never-ending list of praise — it can get overwhelming — or comments that sound too sexual. “Beautiful” is better than “smokin’”.
第四步：注意你的言辞。如果女生为了约会特意打扮了自己，你一定要赞美她。不要无休止的夸赞，这样显得太刻意，让女生感觉到压力。也不要说话一股小流氓口气，美丽、优雅这种词远胜于性感。
05.Pay.
Even if she offers, insist on paying for the date — especially if you initiated the date in the first place. As a couple, you’ll figure out how to split and cover bills later. But for now, pick up the check.
第五步：付账！即使女生掏出了钱包打算付账，你要坚持由你来付。尤其是刚刚开始约会的时候。成为情侣后，你们可以再研究怎么付账。但是现在，强势点把账结一下！（注意不要用力过猛，让女生觉得你人傻钱多，不会过日子……
06.Say goodnight.
Don't let the evening end with a fizzle. Be intentional about saying goodbye, and initiate one of the following: a handshake, hug, or kiss. Don’t leave her standing there awkwardly at the end of the night.
第六步：要记得说晚安！不要让美好的夜晚草草结束或者不了了之。要记得说晚安，同时可以附赠一个握手、拥抱或者亲吻。这就看你撩妹的水平啦，当然一开始还是握手或者拥抱比较合适哦。不要在最后的结束让女生尴尬的站着。
做到这6点，可以给男生打85分。为啥不给打满分？因为还有很多男生可以自己注意的小细节比如给女生准备小礼物、聊天的时候选择有意思的话题之类的。
那么女生需要做什么呢？
女生
01.First impression
Make your first impression stand out.
You are on your first date, first impression lasts for a long time. It is also equally important in your date. First impression is associated with your personality, dress-up, etc. Try to have a decent impression. Don’t overdo it.
第一点：良好的第一印象。
第一次约会，势必会给男生留下深刻的第一印象。不论对于男生或者女生，这点都很重要。第一印象通常和你表现出来的性格、穿着打扮有关系。制造一个正派的第一印象，不要太过夸张。
02.Make-up
Don't cover your face with over make-up.
This is the most important dating tips for girls' first date. Most girls become very thoughtful about their looks, but it is never good to cover your face with over make-up. This might in fact harm your date, and your date may not like this at all. Just keep your eyes pretty, have a light make-up, and smell nice; that will do the trick.
第二点：不要过度装扮。
对于第一次约会的大多数女生来说，千万不要过度装扮。大多数女生会很注重约会时的形象，但是在脸上堆太多层化妆品不是明智之举。卸了妆完全是两个人就尴尬嘞。淡妆应对第一次约会就够啦，最好还能配上你最甜美的微笑。微笑才是百分百必杀技！
03.Try not to be late.
While it is always with the boys come late to any date, the girls might not be an exception in this case too. Do not get late for your date and be on time. It does not look good for your first date.
第三点：尽量不要迟到。
男生女生在约会迟到这件事上其实很相似。准时出现是对第一次约会的尊重。很大程度上我觉得也会体现一个人对工作、生活的态度。
04.Do not overeat.
It does not matter if you are a food lover for a long time, but showing your food-eating skills on your first date is a bad idea. Nothing beats a simple meal, so you can just get going with ordering some basic meal.
第四点：不要吃太多！
你是个吃货，这没什么不可以。但是第一次约会不要表现出来啊，点一些基本的食物就好啦。其实有时候男生会觉得吃得多的女生很可爱，但吃多少这个量值得思考。
第一次约会，女生也要认真准备很多啊。
别紧张，随便聊聊就行。
总之做最真实的自己，不要刻意隐藏。贴心的为对方考虑，展现你的人格魅力，还要对自己有信心！一次约会不足以顺利拐骗对方，还要继续努力！
“如果是第一次约会（first date）需要注意什么呢？男生和女生需要有什么样的不同表现呢？”
男生
01.Plan it.
Have an answer for when and where the date will be. Don’t say stuff like “I don’t know, what do you think” or “It’s up to you” constantly.Try to pick a location that’s comfortable and conducive to conversation.
第一步：选择约会的时间地点。拿出我要为你承包整个鱼塘的霸气决定约会的细节，而不是一副弱弱的样子说：“我不知道，你觉得呢？”或者“你决定吧”！选择一个适合两人交谈的舒服场所。
While movie dates are popular, they’re not great for first dates as you’ll both be staring at a screen all night. If the idea of staring at her from across a table all night intimidates you, choose an interactive date. Even if you have nothing in common, you can at least laugh about your poor mini-golf skills together.
虽然第一次约会去看电影是不错的选择，但其实并不适合。你想啊，整晚你们俩都看着大屏幕，没有心灵交流啊！！！如果你觉得面对面坐一整晚会让你非常紧张的话，尝试更多的互动。即使你们没啥共同话题，你们可以一起嘲笑你的高尔夫球打得很菜。
02.Dress to impress.
You may think, "First date! I need to look amazing!" You don’t need to wear a suit and tie to the local pub, but it wouldn’t hurt to brush your teeth and put on a shirt that doesn’t look slept in.
第二步：在约会前认真的打扮下。你可能想第一次约会就给女生留下特别好的印象。当然不需要过度装扮比如说西装革履去酒吧，但是约会前认真的刷牙，穿一件不是一看起来就是睡皱了的衬衫还是很重要的。毕竟三分颜值七分裱，可以不那么帅气但至少要给女生留下干净清爽的印象。
03.Be on time.
And be gracious if she’s fashionably late. She probably just doesn’t want to show up before you get there.
第三步：准时！如果女生迟到了要理解，大多数女生还是有点小矜持哒，在你出现之前她们不会出现的。而且因为要洗澡吹头发化妆，出门时间真的很难把握啊。
在女生姗姗来迟之前，你可以利用这个时间做什么呢？背单词啊！掏出手机打开扇贝，背50个单词或者读2篇新闻，都是极好的。
04.Compliments
Use compliments appropriately.
She likely puts some efforts into her look for you, so offer her a compliment or two. Avoid a never-ending list of praise — it can get overwhelming — or comments that sound too sexual. “Beautiful” is better than “smokin’”.
第四步：注意你的言辞。如果女生为了约会特意打扮了自己，你一定要赞美她。不要无休止的夸赞，这样显得太刻意，让女生感觉到压力。也不要说话一股小流氓口气，美丽、优雅这种词远胜于性感。
05.Pay.
Even if she offers, insist on paying for the date — especially if you initiated the date in the first place. As a couple, you’ll figure out how to split and cover bills later. But for now, pick up the check.
第五步：付账！即使女生掏出了钱包打算付账，你要坚持由你来付。尤其是刚刚开始约会的时候。成为情侣后，你们可以再研究怎么付账。但是现在，强势点把账结一下！（注意不要用力过猛，让女生觉得你人傻钱多，不会过日子……
06.Say goodnight.
Don't let the evening end with a fizzle. Be intentional about saying goodbye, and initiate one of the following: a handshake, hug, or kiss. Don’t leave her standing there awkwardly at the end of the night.
第六步：要记得说晚安！不要让美好的夜晚草草结束或者不了了之。要记得说晚安，同时可以附赠一个握手、拥抱或者亲吻。这就看你撩妹的水平啦，当然一开始还是握手或者拥抱比较合适哦。不要在最后的结束让女生尴尬的站着。
做到这6点，可以给男生打85分。为啥不给打满分？因为还有很多男生可以自己注意的小细节比如给女生准备小礼物、聊天的时候选择有意思的话题之类的。
那么女生需要做什么呢？
女生
01.First impression
Make your first impression stand out.
You are on your first date, first impression lasts for a long time. It is also equally important in your date. First impression is associated with your personality, dress-up, etc. Try to have a decent impression. Don’t overdo it.
第一点：良好的第一印象。
第一次约会，势必会给男生留下深刻的第一印象。不论对于男生或者女生，这点都很重要。第一印象通常和你表现出来的性格、穿着打扮有关系。制造一个正派的第一印象，不要太过夸张。
02.Make-up
Don't cover your face with over make-up.
This is the most important dating tips for girls' first date. Most girls become very thoughtful about their looks, but it is never good to cover your face with over make-up. This might in fact harm your date, and your date may not like this at all. Just keep your eyes pretty, have a light make-up, and smell nice; that will do the trick.
第二点：不要过度装扮。
对于第一次约会的大多数女生来说，千万不要过度装扮。大多数女生会很注重约会时的形象，但是在脸上堆太多层化妆品不是明智之举。卸了妆完全是两个人就尴尬嘞。淡妆应对第一次约会就够啦，最好还能配上你最甜美的微笑。微笑才是百分百必杀技！
03.Try not to be late.
While it is always with the boys come late to any date, the girls might not be an exception in this case too. Do not get late for your date and be on time. It does not look good for your first date.
第三点：尽量不要迟到。
男生女生在约会迟到这件事上其实很相似。准时出现是对第一次约会的尊重。很大程度上我觉得也会体现一个人对工作、生活的态度。
04.Do not overeat.
It does not matter if you are a food lover for a long time, but showing your food-eating skills on your first date is a bad idea. Nothing beats a simple meal, so you can just get going with ordering some basic meal.
第四点：不要吃太多！
你是个吃货，这没什么不可以。但是第一次约会不要表现出来啊，点一些基本的食物就好啦。其实有时候男生会觉得吃得多的女生很可爱，但吃多少这个量值得思考。
第一次约会，女生也要认真准备很多啊。
别紧张，随便聊聊就行。
总之做最真实的自己，不要刻意隐藏。贴心的为对方考虑，展现你的人格魅力，还要对自己有信心！一次约会不足以顺利拐骗对方，还要继续努力！
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